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Caring About My Submissives (Guest Post from Miss Violet!)

For a caring BDSM phone sex session call Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Miss Violet Cares About Her Submissives 800-601-6975

Forget Stereotypes

A Mistress is often portrayed as an evil, uncaring bitch, dressed all in black, wielding a whip like Indiana Jones on a rampage. That kind of Mistress is out there, but there are other types you need to be aware of. You may have avoided calling any Mistress, or stayed away from fetishes and BDSM entirely out of nervousness you would end up in the clutches of someone who would be abusive. That can only happen if you choose that. Perhaps you need a Caring Mistress.

The Caring Side of FemDom

I have been dominating men for a long time, and right from the beginning I cared about my submissives. They are people who are putting their trust…a lot of trust…in me. I take that seriously and want you to know that. While I do enjoy inflicting some pain on those who desire it, I have my limits. I am not interested in injuring you, physically or mentally. I like to discuss your limits ahead of time, tell you about my approach, and then begin the scene, knowing the parameters have been set. I will stay within the boundaries you have.

You will not be left with bruises or welts, unless you want to be. I am sensitive to your primary relationship, and your career. When you tell me you cannot have marks, I will take extra care to see you do not have them. If you get in trouble because of marks I leave, I will feel bad and you will lose trust. My goal is to take you where you need to be mentally…way out into sub space…give you the experience you crave, and then send you seamlessly back into your life. I want you to learn that you can trust me. That leads to a deeper connection.

Extra Care for You

When you ask for moderate to hard core spanking, caning, flogging, CBT, etc., I want to see you on skype or YM. You can keep your face out of the shot, wear a mask, or put a spotlight on your cock/ass to put your face in darkness. This is a safety issue. I need to be able to see your flesh as I proceed with impact play. I will instruct you to show me your balls, cock, ass, or thighs from time to time. This allows me to gauge how your flesh is handling the impact play.

If I deem that your flesh looks okay, I will proceed. At times I will tell you that we are switching to another activity for a while, to give your flesh a break. And if I feel you will have unwanted bruises/welts, or be damaged, I will stop the activity for the time being. We can always play again, and push a little further, if we play safely. Whether you play in person, or in a phone session, with BDSM it is safety first. I will not waver from that.

Aftercare is Important

Following a BDSM session, you require some aftercare. That means you lying down for a few minutes, or longer, to relax, while I talk softly to you, tell you what a wonderful submissive you are and how much you pleased me. I will stroke your head, give you water to drink, and ensure that you are fully back in your conscious mind and feeling okay before we end our session. That is the caring, responsible thing to do. I am a caring, responsible sensually strict Mistress.

I have done some BDSM calls with Ms Daphne and she is also caring and responsible. It is one of the aspects of her I like best. Her submissives adore that. So now you know of another Mistress who will take good care of you. I refer callers to Ms Daphne as a Mistress I respect and trust. This kind of caring Mistress gives you the pleasure of experiencing the spiritual side of BDSM.

Thank you, Ms Daphne, for inviting me to guest post on your blog. It has been a pleasure!

Call Miss Violet for sensual phone sex 800-601-6975

Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Note from Mistress Daphne: Thank you so much, Miss Violet, for outlining your care for your submissives. You and I most definitely take care of our submissive’s similarly. I love your caring and attentive manner and know it benefits your clients in ways they might not even realize at first. They are very lucky to have your firm and guiding hand as they play and explore BDSM. I look forward to working with you again soon!

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Mistress Daphne’s Audios -updated 5/26/16

I’ve added a couple of Audios to my Audio Page.

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Masturbation & Guilt


When I was about 18-years old, I became a Born-Again Christian. I’d already been going to the gay bars for a couple of years, lived with 8 gay men, been indoctrinated at the Glory Holes and had had sex with many men, both gay and straight. I had also slept with a couple of women . . . → Read More: Masturbation & Guilt

Humping Inanimate Objects


You know exactly what I am talking about, don’t you. You might even be turning red thinking I am going to disclose your deepest secret. Well, what kind of a Sadistic Bitch would I be if I didn’t exploit your embarrassment for my pleasure?

Humping Inanimate Objects – for My Amusement

A submissive sissy-friend . . . → Read More: Humping Inanimate Objects

Guest Post from Ms. Fiona: Mystical Merging


Thanks usually come at the end, but I feel compelled to thank Mistress Fiona at the outset for her wonderful post about Tantric Sex in our various communities here at LDW. She embraces all sexes and genders, something not often done in the Tantric community. Even if this isn’t something you think will interest . . . → Read More: Guest Post from Ms. Fiona: Mystical Merging

Masturbating for an Audience (Part 3 – Finale)

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In Masturbating for an Audience (Part 1), I prep my sub boy to entertain my friends with his masturbating tricks. 

In Masturbating for an Audience (Part 2), I set my boy up for his penetration… of mind and body.


I stand back a little and watch, deciding if you are moving sufficiently or not. . . . → Read More: Masturbating for an Audience (Part 3 – Finale)

Masturbating for an Audience (Part 2)

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Masturbating for an Audience (Part 1) preps my sub boy to entertain my friends with his masturbating tricks. Here, he begins his performance for us.

Lube It Up!

Before you sit on the cock I have lubed and ready for you, I ask you to turn your ass to the group and, as you . . . → Read More: Masturbating for an Audience (Part 2)

Masturbating for an Audience (Part 1)


It’s Masturbation May!

LDW has some awesome Specials for you guys. Many of us are writing blog posts related to this most personal experience ALL of us share! Here is one of mine.

Masturbating for an Audience

If you’ve spent any time with me in Session, you know I will ask some terribly . . . → Read More: Masturbating for an Audience (Part 1)

Rope Bondage in a Wheelchair

Note: I do not profess to be an expert on those that have differing abilities. I do strive to learn the proper terminology and will do my best here in this piece. Please pardon any mistakes and if I do make them, correct me. I want to be as inclusive as possible. Thanks for . . . → Read More: Rope Bondage in a Wheelchair

Mistress Daphne on Her Knees

Glory hole

(There is the usual disclaimer of safety of Self and Health. Protect yourself in the way that fits your lifestyle. Condoms are not unusual at Glory Holes so don’t feel self-conscious if it is something you prefer.)

It’s no secret how much I love sucking cock. Eating cum. And, most especially, having fun with . . . → Read More: Mistress Daphne on Her Knees