Have you ever been told you masturbate “too much?” Who told you such a thing and was it any of their business? Was it a family member? A friend? A lover? A spouse?
Masturbating… by the Numbers
I like to think that the only person who gets to decide if you are masturbating too much is you.
Folks who stick their noses into your masturbating groin need to keep their mind on their own. I believe that unless your masturbation is keeping you from your work life and, maybe, your relationship sex life (and I am iffy on that, too), you are probably doing just fine.
They especially need to keep out of your personal business if they are trying to make you feel guilty, dirty or abnormal.
YOU ARE NOT!
I think society puts a price on limiting our sexuality… that it is a good thing to withhold our “animalistic” desires, maturbating included. Well, this is one of about 2 bazillion ways society is fucked up and needs to get a grip.
Masturbating Too Much
What if YOU feel you are?
Now this is a whole different topic for another day, but if you feel you are, then we can talk about that. If, in fact, your masturbating is interfering in your work days… you are calling in sick to stay home alone and masturbate, for example… this might be a sign something needs to be thought about. (Not that an occasional Masturbation Marathon Mental Health Day might not be grand fun!)
So, to recap, who decides if you are masturbating too much?
YOU DO!
Mistress Daphne!
This post is an example of why I simply ADORE you! You provide a safe place for people to be vulnerable. To express themselves without judgement and scorn! I agree too many people have opinions on how we should conduct our lives, orgasm and masturbation is good for you on so many levels! The majority of people put masturbation in the right perspective in relation to their other life duties and nothing needs to change.
That’s not to say some get don’t get a bit obsessive, and if they even asked themselves ONCE “Is this too much” it’s time to talk with you! To help sort that all out. Great post, thanks!
See you around the Empire, sexy!
Ms. Erika!
You are making me blush like crazy. Thank you for your kind words. And I know that we Mistresses are asked to help with Cock Control… I mean, one of our major jobs is to help men and women keep their hands off their genitals… but, when it comes down to WHY… it is THEIR choice, not someone else’s.
Thank you for hearing me.
I adore you!
I’m a gooner, so I masturbate 4 hours everyday. But, it never interferes with my necessary life activities (school, at the moment). So, I don’t masturbate too much, in my opinion :3
YAY for you! Keep it UP!
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Thanks!! Will do!! Feels too good to stop anyhow!! x3
Well, as much as I like to play with various forms of cock control as a kink, within which I like to tell My stroke pets that all male masturbation should be controlled and directed by a Mistress, I have to agree with You, Miss Daphne. I do think that some men get so used to the death-grip of their fist that even the most kegel-ized vagina can’t compete, but that falls under Your exception regarding whether or not masturbation is disrupting the obligations of daily life, and that’s only if he has a vagina in his life for which he is responsible to satisfy.
All in all, shame, repression, and guilt outside of kinky orgasm control play are all unhealthy! The only people who should be involved in what you do with your body are those you choose to share it with!
Great post!
Ms Daphne, I could not agree with you more. Everyone has to decide for themselves how much masturbation is too much. Nevertheless, it does make for interesting fodder for blog posts and having the chance to laugh at one self now and them.
Agreed there!!
When stopping completely.I can jizz in my sleep
Ooooo, lucky girl!
I think you make some good points here, Ms. Daphne. I wonder if many of the callers who say they’re masturbating too much feel that way because they are having actual problems in their lives, or whether they’ve been told they shouldn’t do it so much by someone else. I will say, however, that as a man gets older, if he’s jerking off all the time he probably won’t have enough “juice” for the woman in his life. In this case, taking control of his masturbation can be a very good thing. 🙂
I most definitely feel we have a very important role in a person’s masturbation habits… whether it is a game for them of whether it is a very real need to be controlled in the most intimate places of their bodies. Believe me, I love that we Mistresses take control over unruly cocks… I find it a delicious amount of fun and sexiness. I just don’t want people to let others make decisions about what they do – or do NOT do – with their dicks.
Thanks so much for the reminder! You are awesome.
I think most men masturbate because they are not getting any …period.Of course there. are opportunities to score or they are unaware of that.Or they are fixatuated on one certain person.My current situation is I have been diagnosed with transgender dysphoria.A therapist has stated in writing that i MUST live life as a woman. ? at this time i have not done any major
Non reversible changes to my body.Will I? God only knows.I believe in God the father I believe in Jesus Christ. I cried out to God I want to be a Woman ?.God answered.I made you a boy be a Man. I asked God if i could grow breasts God replied we’ll see.So i am in the we will see mode.I no longer masturbate like a man in the traditional methods.example chocking the chicken or a dozen other terms for dating Mary Palm ? and her five sisters.I confess i used to be a pillow humper.I started pillow humping as of having desires fot a girl that didn’t want me.What a marketing idea sell pillow cases with images of sexually attractive people on the pillow case. I now masturbate like a girl.Using fingers or toys or random produce.How often?My live is so busy o don’t have time to play with myself. Bu i could find time or make it.I would rather find someone to have to do the sexual acts with.So i make my moves on women i find desirable. I even tried Ann Coulter thru the power of the internet i sort of sissy perved her on twitter.I have a long list of things to do & playing with myself isn’t on the list.A Mistress has told me not to perv her so i don’t .But she is like a person dragging an alcoholic into a liquor store being on the “Dark Side “the of the internet.
April,
That is an interesting comment there. I really appreciate hearing your thought processes and am glad you shared them with all of us.
The sexy pillow cases is a BRILLIANT idea! BRILLIANT!
I’m sorry you struggle, sweet sissy. I know many folks with gender dysphoria, including my former partner before his SRS. It is a serious struggle, I know.
Thank you again, April.
Former Partner? Was he a cop? This may be prying but could explain why he / now she is a former partner?
Uh, no… not sure what one has to do with the other, but no.
confused
April,
The question is inappropriate for this forum.
Thanks for understanding why I am not answering.
Mistress Daphne
Ok . I used to watch porn at work i suppose billions of people do. I stopped bring in phone 2 work so i wouldn’t not get into trouble. I feel that i should masturbate more often .I masturbated earlier this morning to your cum swallowing post am masturbating now .oh yeah x23 came.