What happens when you like to be the Dominant and the submissive, not at the same time, of course. But during one Scene, you might want to be the Dom and in another, the submissive boy. What does that mean? Might you be a BDSM Switch?

 

What is a BDSM Switch?

When we are talking about BDSM… Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and submission, and Sadism and masochism… there tends to be a balance. Remembering there is always give and take between the parties, balance can come in several ways. First, if the person being Dominant (or Top) might be acting upon the submissive (or bottom), but with safewords in play, the equality occurs. If we accept that as a given, then we can move forward with the differences between a BDSM Switch and remaining at one end of the spectrum versus the other.

 

Being a BDSM Dominant/Top

Being a Dominant (which has an emotional component) or a Top (which is more of a physical activity) is, for all intents and purposes, being in charge of the Scene. A Scene is the activity or situation occurring between the two or more parties.

When you are the Dom (or Domme, if female), you will lead the situation… be the one who acts upon the sub or bottom. It is a position of Power and can be a heady experience. You will be the one who gives pain or who will bind the other. You will be the one who leads where the experience goes. Will there be nudity? That is your choice. Will someone get clothespins on their nipples? That is your choice. It really is a wonderful experience to be the Top or Domme.

With that, however, comes responsibilities for caretaking as well. It’s crucial to make sure your subby or bottom is not being overtaxed or in too much pain. You want to pull back before a safeword is called.

 

When You Are a submissive/bottom

But what about the times when you need to submit? When you want to be taken care of? You want to be the one who is acted upon, not acting upon someone else?

That would be when you would be being a BDSM subby or a bottom. 

Of course, many of the guys we talk to here at LDW have that submissive streak and we find that absolutely delicious. When you present to us as a sub, either by kneeling or curtsying, it sends shivers of joy down our Femdom spines. It, quite literally, is why we Mistresses are here; to control your orgasms.

Being a submissive can take on many guises. From the obsequious to the bratty bottom. Most fall inbetween and we work within those parameters. If you need Jerk Off Instructions because you are in that subby mood and want someone else to take the reigns, even that is a bottom experience. Anything that removes your mind from the equation can be labeled a submissive space.

 

Have You Ever Been a BDSM Switch?

Or have you thought about it? Do you have the tendency to wander through the BDSM spectrum? During one part of your life, you might have been only a Dominant. And now, you might be in a submissive phase. I have found, having been a Switch myself, that the Switching happens in phases mostly. It isn’t usually a “One Day I am a Dom and the Next I am a sub” kind of thing. I describe it as a season someone passes through. 

That’s worth noting because if you are in the submissive spring season, by winter, you might be in a Dominant space. And it’s all good! Embrace your BDSM Switching experiences. They are amazing and worthwhile… every single moment of each of them.

Tell me in the comments below if you have been a Switch yourself?
Is it an aspect of yourself you embrace? I hope so!