You have the idea that you want to suck dick. You might not have ever done it, but the thought is reoccurring and just will not leave your mind.

Are Guys Who Want to Suck Dick Gay?

That’s a great question and one that can’t be answered in a yes or no. Stay with me, though, I won’t drag this out, I promise.

I have two questions to determine if someone is gay when they like to suck dick.

When you think about sucking cock and when he cums in your mouth, do you:

1) Imagine climbing into his arms to kiss and cuddle for a while?

or

2) Think you would like to get out of the room to go home?

I ask these questions of wannabe cocksuckers who are confused because it can give you some great answers about your desires after he cums… or you cum.

How Did You Answer the Cock Sucking Questions?

What’s interesting about those questions is sometimes it depends on if you have cum or not. 

While you were sucking cock, did your own dick get hard? Did someone suck on your dick or were you the submissive/bottom who did the cocksucking?

If your dick didn’t get hard, that doesn’t mean you didn’t thoroughly enjoy being the cocksucker. It might have meant you were so busy and enthralled, your body didn’t care to get erect. That’s cool. It’s not uncommon for guys to focus so much on what they are doing (so they don’t bite, can still breathe, not gag, not spit out the cum, etc.) that their bodies wait to come alive so they can have some fun, too.

Another aspect that can happen with these two questions is the hormonal shift that occurs after a man ejaculates. When the guy has an orgasm, is he one who wants to cuddle? Does he just want to get out of there? This can give you the clue of whether he is gay or not, too.

So, Am I Gay or What?

I am of the belief and experience that if you are there solely for the dick sucking experience and do not want to cuddle or get to know the guy afterwards, you are closer to the straight side. That gives you a great deal of information with which to work. You must remember, though, that there are a lot of straight guys who suck cock. I have known straight men who’ve been cocksuckers their whole lives and would not remotely consider themselves bisexual. And I agree with them.

It’s absolutely fine… even great… to be a straight cocksucker!

Remember, allllll of this is a spectrum with 100% gay on the left side and 100% straight on the right. I have met very few 100%ers on either side.

Then there is if you really do care about the guy… maybe you have texted about things beyond finding a meeting space and time to get the dirty deed done. This is definitely more a bisexual or gay trait. And that is fantastic, too! Sure, it can get complicated if you are married and have a family. Someday, you might need to make some decisions or choices, but for now, enjoy your newfound inner knowledge and embrace who you are.

This is YOUR Business, Not Anybody Else’s

You don’t need to share this information with anyone unless you want to. This really is none of anyone’s business if you are a Male who has sex with another Male or are exploring your sexuality with men. Feel free to keep it to yourself. Or you can certainly share it with trusted friends or partners (sexual or legal or both).

I really want you to know this is great information for you to have. Knowing if you are straight, gay, bisexual, or anything other label you might think to put on can help you move through your life with more confidence and pride.

No matter what, get yourself on PrEP (for HIV Prevention) and then…

You Be You!