Do you know the term “Heteroflexible?”
Explanation of Heteroflexible
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be with another man, but you know you are not gay? Have you imagined masturbating next to a guy who is also masturbating? Perhaps touching your cock to another dude’s? Have you thought about touching another cock with your hand? Maybe you have thought about stroking someone else’s cock? Or more?!
If you started reading this post, you might have been having these thoughts for awhile now. It’s all cool! Don’t worry about it.
Hear me out.
Isn’t It Heterosexual or Homosexual? Try Heteroflexible!
“Sometimes attracted outside one’s predominant orientation“
Actually, it isn’t! How cool is that, that your sexuality can be on a spectrum? You do not have to be all one or all the other and in reality, the great majority of us falls somewhere on the spectrum.
And then, our movement on that spectrum is not static, either.
I’ll use myself as a quick example. I’m lesbian, but I love playing with cocks. They are fun toys, but I don’t want to marry one. There have been times in my life where I like cocks more than others. I used to fret over the shifts, but as I got older, I gave myself grace. It didn’t matter to anyone but me who or what I chose to have sex with. I would be considered homoflexible.
Mental Flexibility Is the Key
Mental and emotional flexibility can be the way to have a successful (and pleasurable!) sex life when you are exploring your sexual spectrum.
Creating a space of non-judgment is crucial to really getting into the experimental times. The last thing you want (or need) is your mind racing and thinking, “What the fuck am I doing? I can’t do this! This is wrong/bad/evil/a sin.”
Instead, welcome the experience, however it unfolds.
“But, I’m Not Gay!”
No matter how much you are able to set aside those societal thoughts, there might (probably will) be the deepest thought of “How can I like this? How can I do this? I’m not gay!”
I will admit, it is hard to not think of yourself as gay when you have a dick in your mouth or one in your ass. Our society just does that to you! Even though you might have those thoughts, it’s okay. Just let them lie there for the duration and deal with them later. For the moment, just enjoy what you are experiencing.
When Being Called Gay is a Turn-On
Then there is when being told you are a faggot or a queer that makes you extra excited. What about that? Does that mean you’re gay? Absolutely not!
This is another example of not being judgmental of what you’re experiencing. Don’t think; enjoy!
Wanting More & More (& More!) Cocks
It isn’t unusual to want more of the forbidden fruit after you have tasted (so to speak) it once. Heteroflexibility is definitely at play now.
Even though you are wanting cocks, maybe you don’t have to suck all of them. Maybe they all don’t have to fuck you. What about playing with a dick without these activities. That can be fun, too, and for those that tend towards guilty feelings, non-penetration can be a good solution.
I bet this makes you feel odd inside. There is that voice, and it is loud, that again screams, “BUT, I’M NOT GAY!” You might not be, but clearly you are having some heteroflexibility going on. Roll with it.
What if I AM Gay?
Allllll of that said, if you are gay, cool! In fact, that is cool as fuck. Embrace it! Come out if you can. Find joy in your new sexuality.
Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, or Heteroflexibility. Have a great time!
Wow Ms Daphne, this is an incredible post, you never cease to Amaze me, so darn cool n smart, thank you for being our best fun Allie !! Put me in the all of the above category for sure, sounds good lol !! xoxos Stay Hot and Sexy !!
viola! I am so glad you could relate and it was good info for you, too. I learned a lot writing it!
We can sit in the same booth now. 😁
Mmmmmm Hmmmmmm Wow, my imagination just ran wild, thinking of sitting in the same booth as you, driving me crazy !!! xoxos
What would you call it if the idea of being made to suck or frot with another man excites you only if you are coerced to do so by a dominant woman and give in as a form of submission and power exchange. I think I would still consider this fantasy heteroflexible but seriously, without her involvement, watching and knowing it’s what she wants and she finds it insanely hot, it would lose all of its appeal for me.
Wish that I were in charge of label-making for the world, but alas, I am not.
I would consider what you are talking about as BDSM… Dominance and submission. Not anything sexually desirable between the penis/clitty people.
Does that help/make sense?
I love this post Daphne, I know it will help many be kinder to themselves, we tend to get hung up on labels, and what they mean about us. True we are social creatures and on some level, we should keep an eye on that. But in all honesty how many people actually see, or know what goes on in each other’s bedrooms, unless you chose broadcasted?
I wonder how many people after reading this post, choose hetroflexible?
I also have a new word for ME! Homoflexible… I had never heard it before writing this.
And think it’s fun to watch my own evolution since starting work here in 2015… from calling straight men who like dick “straight cocksuckers” to “MSM” and now “heteroflexible.” It’s an interesting observation of the shift in language and how fast it happens nowadays.
And you are right, the guys and gals still get to choose their own labels… or use no labels whatsoever! It’s all good.
Thank you so much for commenting! Love ya!
“Heteroflexible”? That’s a mouthful!
You are punny.
I’m not gay but definitely a sissy girl who’s weak helpless submissive in being dressed turned and kept as a girl by you along being your lipstick lesbian girlfriend. It’s too difficult to resist and say no as your to hot sexy and powerful. After much thought it’s better this way and so glad you/Ms Erika/Ms Becky have taken control.