One of the most common questions I hear as a Mistress is: Why do I like humiliation?
Why Do People Like Humiliation?
The idea that someone would get an erection by being humiliated seems counterintuitive, doesn’t it? We can break it down to some smaller parts and I can show you where it 1) might have come from 2) why you still like it so many years later.
You would think that being embarrassed as a kid, something that can be quite humiliating, wouldn’t be arousing. But, what if you were in those teen years with constant erections?
Humiliating Situations That Might Make You HardWhat if you got caught (or almost caught/wanted to be caught) masturbating wearing your sister’s clothes?
What if you happened to get hard a split second after (or before) being kicked in the balls?
What if someone found out you humped a pillow to get off? Or the washer? Or the banister? Humping gets you hard, right? Why wouldn’t talking about it?
What if the you felt yourself getting hard at an inopportune moment. Perhaps you were reading a book report in front of the class. Maybe you were undressing in the gym. Maybe you had thinner jeans on that day and it was obvious you were becoming erect. All of these would be massively humiliating, right?
What if you got a spanking and afterwards, instead of crying, you jerked off to feel better?
From Humiliation to Cumming
And then, after any or all of those experiences, you go home and masturbate, replaying the situation, over and over again. This helps to cement the reason why you get excited by humiliation and want… even need… it in the future in order to have a great orgasm.
Of course, these are the simplistic, non-scientific, possibilities of why you like humiliation so much, but these theories often hold true.
Just enjoy yourself! It doesn’t mean you are crazy or weird. It just means you have a desire to be humiliated for a few minutes in order to get off. Whatever gets you there, sweetie!
Ms Daphne thank you so much for writing about humiliation and arousal.. From being scolded for cumming too early for a crush, to the early phone sex calls that I made, humiliation has been something that I crave.
Oooo, that is very interesting… yes, Premature Ejaculation (even the technical term is humiliating!) is a BIG one (haha!).
And yes, phone sex… we really do know how to hit those buttons, don’t we?
Wes, keep it UP, darlin’. (And I don’t mean your dicklette, either.)
For me I don’t mind being humiliated anymore. Especially now that you/Ms Erika/Ms Madi/Ms Olivia and the other ldw mistresses have seen how small my clitty is as well being dressed up as a girl. Same with my cabi friend. I WANT her to dress me up as a girl take me out holding her purse shopping bags telling everyone what she did to me especially wearing a dress!!! It’s hot how all of you have made me your sissy girl. With all of you doing this do I really need a girlfriend? If I do I’ll come out of closet and tell her I like to wear women’s clothes bras panties. If they aren’t into this it’s their loss. I admit I’m a sissy girl as the urge is to strong to resist and say no especially with all of you owning me as your sissy girl forever.
How nice you don’t mind a little humiliation, carli. I am sure it is a tad embarrassing that we know how small your clitty is, isn’t it?
And to walk around as a girl carrying bags and purses?
Embrace who you are, babycakes!
Oh Mistress Daphne haven’t you just sent your pets into a tizzy on this one?. That darned old erection at the most awkward time must “rank up” there should it “not” rank up there?!
Confessing now to you, truly real humiliation…slow dancing with my friends girlfriend and the words ring in my ears…”are you comfortable?”
Mistress Daphne thanks for another poignant post!
That made me bust out laughing, “Are you comfortable?” ?
“Uh, TOO comfortable.” wiggle wiggle adjust
She was very sweet…and I guess you could say I was “crushing” on her! Good lord Mistress Daphne…you know me! More like “brushing” on her!
Not an anecdote of mine “widely” shared! It’s too short!
Good ones have to be the perfect length… too short and it’s a quip, or a pun…
Too long and someone may lose interest….(now THAT’S a pun!)
Preambles can often build up the anticipation of a an impressive anecdote. It doesn’t always work that way.
To make a long story short, as they say, may be more rewarding.
Honestly, Mistress Daphne, until I read your post I hadn’t thought of this little embarrassing moment for ages….(Thank you? For sure!)
I am cracking up at the memory, a harbinger perhaps?) of my missives to you and other Mistresses of my penchant to share.
Glad I found this, it would have taken eons to recreate.
Glad I could spark a great memory!
Be proud of our dicklettes ladies! It makes us who we are. Daphne delivers the most yummy humiliation. So many of the above scenarios are all too familiar. Embrace the tiny! I think I actually even premature once on the phone with Daphne. She’s irresistible.
You are way too kind, cindy!!
Giant hugs your way, you little dicklette girl you.