I recently wrote Why Do Women Love Pegging a Man and folks seemed to enjoy hearing a Femdom’s viewpoint, so I thought I would continue with Cock & Ball Torture… CBT.

CBT Mistress’ Perspective

There is something to be said that a man would allow a powerful woman next to his gonads. Either he is foolish or, as in the case of Cock & Ball Torture, he gets off on having his balls busted and cock tormented.

For a Femdom, being able to reach out and touch the most private of areas on a man is deliciously naughty. I love when men get naked and spread their legs for me, inviting me into their space and giving me free rein to do whatever I want to do. When I can glide my fingernails over the head of their cocks, then dig them in a little, causing them to wince and wiggle a bit, it fucking turns me on.

CBT Mistress Daphne 1-800-601-6975


Power and Control

I get off on the power to make all the decisions as they sit back, tied so they cannot move or ordered to sit still (which is lots of fun because you try to sit still when someone is hurting your privates!).

Then when I move down the shaft, maybe binding it with any variety of strings or, my favorites, incredibly scary toys out there for just this sort of job. I always look in the guys’ eyes, seeing their increasing discomfort. Of course I watch for the kind of pain that is damaging and stay within the boundaries of CBT without ruining their cock or balls.

CBT Mistress Daphne 1-800-601-6975


Sounds scare the bejeezus out of some men, making it all the more fun to use them. I love the feeling of gently entering the urethra and fucking the guy’s cock with the stainless steel. Using the sound on a dick offers me a similar feeling to penetrating a man’s ass; I am in complete control and it is up to me how far he goes with the pain and fear.

Your fear is my aphrodisiac.

CBT Mistress Daphne 1-800-601-6975

Ball Crushing Fun

While the cock is nice to play with, my favorite part is crushing those testicles. Balls are the most tender area for men and to be able to fondle, pull, twist and seal inside a toy is glorious.

Taking a ball smasher and locking the guy in takes my breath away for how intense it is, not just for him, but for me as well. I watch what I am doing, but stay in complete contact with the man’s eyes, paying attention to his breathing, usually breathing with him as I slide the toy onto his balls and begin the ritual tightening of the screws.

CBT Mistress Daphne 1-800-601-6975

Generous Vulnerability

It really is a gift to have a man turn over his most tender of areas to a Mistress and I appreciate the honor completely. My job is to make sure there is no permanent damage while causing the most pain I can. I, quite literally, get high from the control over his pain and misery.

CBT Mistress Daphne 1-800-601-6975


I hope this offers a window into a Femdom Mistress’ attitude and feeling about CBT. Have questions? Feel free to ask in the comment below.

Now, spread those legs for me.