Note: I do not profess to be an expert on those that have differing abilities. I do strive to learn the proper terminology and will do my best here in this piece. Please pardon any mistakes and if I do make them, correct me. I want to be as inclusive as possible. Thanks for your patience as I educate myself. I found an awesome piece here about terminology that I will refer to as I write: Diversity Leaders: 6 Things NEVER to Say About Disabilities.

And another Note: It’s also important to know I have a great deal of experience with the Fat Acceptance Movement (being involved in lesbian politics over the years). I learned to use the word “fat” easily and without shame. As I discuss one of the women in the piece, know that as I looked at her ample flesh, I was in love with what I saw. I find larger folks extremely attractive, playing and having sex with folks over 300-pounds often. If I say a word that makes you flinch, please replace it with a word that makes you more comfortable.

And now, on to the story!

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Awesome Bondage Scene

When Mistress Lilly and I went to the Play Party together in April, we were surprised (and delighted) to witness a Bondage Scene between a blind Domme and her wheelchair-using submissive. Watching, I knew I had to share the story with you, especially since so few stories exist between differently-abled folks in the BDSM Scene.

While much of the Bondage Scene looked typical, it was in the nuances that we watched mesmerized.

The beautiful woman in the electric wheelchair was very, very large. She wore a black teddy-sort of lingerie, but it was easy to see the delicious rolls of flesh in her belly, arms and legs. I couldn’t wait to see what the ropes did to that corpulence. I ached to press my fingers into that fat, knowing it had to have been so very soft and squishy. I was extremely turned on.

The Ropes

At first glance, we didn’t realize the Domme was blind, but as she began wrapping the rope around her sub, it was the way she slid them through her fingers, touching them as they connected physically with her partner. Most who do rope bondage wrap with their hands back some, not far, but not on the person they are binding.

And how did she know which ropes to use? She had several wound on a bench close to her. Many bondage folks have ways to determine the lengths of rope being used, the ends taped or whipped with different colors. I wondered how this woman would know what length she was taking into her hand. Were they all the same size? Upon closer inspection, I saw the ends were each finished with a different material! One with thread (standard whipping):

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example of thread whipping

… and still another that was clearly heat sealed.

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example of heat sealing nylon rope

She also had some ends taped:

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rope with purple taped ends

I also saw a couple of wrapped ropes with knots on them like this:

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knotted rope

That would be an awesome way to determine the length of the rope, too!

Such amazing wisdom in preparing her ropes.

Safety Checks in Rope Bondage

A crucial tool in rope bondage are the medical scissors in case an emergency occurs and the bottom needs to be out of the bonds quickly. They might have a panic attack or there could even be a fire and everyone evacuated immediately. I saw the scissors strategically placed on the bench next to the rope, the closest thing next to the Domme.

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I also noticed one of the Dungeon Monitors close by; a safety net I thought was a really good idea.

When one does Rope Bondage, there are a slew of cautions and I was curious how a blind woman would traverse them. One is to make sure the submissive isn’t being bound too tightly, cutting off circulation, watching for color changes in the skin. As the Scene unfolded however, I saw that she would feel her submissive’s skin, between the ropes. I can imagine she was feeling for temperature changes and even tautness to the flesh. Brilliant.

Subspace in a Bondage Scene

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Falling into subspace, it’s easy to become non-verbal. In a typical Scene with a sighted person, they would be watching over the sub to make sure they didn’t fall too deeply… where they could ignore the bindings and their possibly cutting off circulation or not. But this couple had overcome this subspace hurdle in their own private way. It took awhile for me to catch it, but the submissive would use her right hand to put out a number from one to three and the Domme, as she made a rotation around with the rope, would slide her hand down and feel her subbie’s hand, clearly noting the number given. One, I could see, meant something like “Keep going, I am fine,” whereas two fingers seemed to say, “I am getting into subspace.” I wasn’t entirely sure, but it didn’t look like the numbers corresponded with Green, Yellow and Red (common safewords in Scenes) because the Domme did not slow down her wrapping when she felt the two on her submissive’s hand. She did lean over and gently kiss her cheek and that was so tender to see. I never saw the sub with a three on her fingers. I suspect that would mean, “Getting too deep. Be careful!”

All of these mental notes, instead of detracting from the Scene, actually added to my intense pleasure watching it. Instead, I watched the woman encase her submissive in a wide variety of ropes and knots.

Becoming One

As I’d hoped earlier, the bindings on the woman’s flesh pressed up her squishiness, creating a lovely topography that I wanted to traverse with my hands.

And tongue.

shudder

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It was easy to forget either one had ability issues at all, their dance so fluid and lovely. I swayed with the floating movements of the Domme, her joy clearly expressed on her face. The succulent submissive, too, seemed to be flying herself.

The Scene was easily two hours long, but it seemed a blink before the two women, wrapped in each other’s arms for several minutes, began the unfolding of the ropes.

Ropes in a Bondage Scene

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I felt my cunt twitch as I saw the rope marks left on the sub’s skin. Ached to kiss every indentation. I so wanted to demonstrate the pleasure she had (unwittingly!) given to me. I imagined being between those enormous thighs, my head pressed so hard I could hear nothing but her wet in my mouth.

After the ropes were removed and re-wound, put in their rolling suitcase with the scissors, the women glided across the floor, hand in hand, and sat next to each other, cuddling and talking to each other quietly. Their Aftercare was too private to interrupt and it was getting late, so Ms. Lilly and I excused ourselves from the area.

I’ve thought of these women, and others with differing abilities, in the BDSM Scene. Where are they? This Dungeon was awesome, setting aside a specific area, out of the way of traffic, for them. Dungeons could all do that for those that need it. Do you have extenuating circumstances keeping you from playing? Maybe we can, together, find ways to overcome them. Everyone should have their kinky needs met.

Let this be an ongoing discussion, okay?

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