Part 1 – Serious Topic: Staying Safe With Anonymous Sex can be found in the link.

Part 2 – Serious Topics Series: Physical Risks of Anonymous Sex can be found at this link.

I also want to say that Role Playing these situations, with 100% consent, can be awesome and arousing. I am not talking about consensual escapades. I am talking about something totally different here.

Safe(r) Sex with Anonymous Partners

I wrote, December 15, 2015, The Razor’s Edge, saying, at one point:

Of course, there is the risk of STDs and HIV/AIDS, especially when having sex with strange men and eating others’ ejaculate. When I talk to you guys who do these things, I ask that you make an INFORMED DECISION to do so. You know what you are getting into and, as long as you do, then go for it! I do encourage every six-month testing as well.

The gist of “The Razor’s Edge” is that YOU get to decide the risk/benefit ratio. Is the risk too high for swallowing cum? What about anal/pussy sex? Do you insist on condoms for anal sex, but not oral? (Many do this.) Or are you one who uses condoms even for oral sex? It is not uncommon for that to occur anymore, even in Glory Holes.

When you have made your decisions and feel comfortable with them, stick to them because you will feel better afterward if you do than if you do not. Regret sucks after sex. It should leave you feeling awesome, not yucky.

If you are in a spot where the person standing in front of you gives you an ultimatum: Lose the condom or you don’t get my dick.

You can always find another dick.

If you choose to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections, that is an important and noble decision. If you are challenged and do not want to change your plans, LEAVE.

If, however, if you are able to rectify your desire for sex without the condom… and will not feel like crap afterward… then go for it! Have a blast! But please do not spend time in regret after you both orgasm.

When Sex Doesn’t End Well

Sex does not always have a happy ending for both partners. No one wants to talk about negative experiences when sex is involved, but I am standing strong and moving forward with a very difficult topic. One I know about personally.

One I know. Personally.

Hang with me as we move into painful territory for many of us. We’ll hold hands and sally forth.

If You Have Been Sexually Assaulted…

…I need you to hear me:

YOU DID NOTHING WRONG.

YOU DID NOTHING TO PROVOKE IT.

YOU DID NOT DESERVE IT.

IT DOES NOT SAY YOU ARE A BAD PERSON.

A CRIME WAS DONE TO YOU.

I don’t care if you were drunk, in panties, on your knees, your mouth open, then decided to say NO… and he kept going anyway… you were assaulted. You’ve heard all this in the news a lot lately, I know. You might never have equated it to it happening to men… or you… but it has/does/will.

In the previous post, I talked about what to do if you are hurt… who to call, how to get immediate help if you need it. Be sure to go back again and note the resources you can depend on.

The next post is Emotional Healing After Physical/Sexual Assault. Please do not ignore how deep the pain and shame can be with assault. Please get help, even if it is just a phone call to a helpline.

Resources for Physical and Sexual Assault Help & Healing

Part 1 – Serious Topic: Staying Safe With Anonymous Sex

Part 2 – Serious Topics Series: Physical Risks of Anonymous Sex

Part 4 – Emotional Healing After Physical/Sexual Assault