The clit is so much more than just what you can see with your eyes. So many of you love eating pussy, whether on your girlfriend, wife or lover… or Serving your Domme here at LDW… I felt it was a good time to share some hidden information (pun intended).

Clitoris 101

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Looking at the above image, you can see the actual clit nodule However, the majority of the clitoris is inside the body.

Of important note is the Crura. The crura are also called “the legs of the clitoris.” Even though the legs are on the inside of the body, they are the area where many women, myself included, prefer to be stimulated. Licking, flicking, rubbing the clitoral shaft or the glans clitoris is awesome for (probably most) women, but if you’re ignoring the legs, you are missing a wonderful way to serve the woman who has invited you into her cunt.

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It is common for lovers to focus just on the nub, but I am here to encourage you to study the anatomy of the clit and use your fingertips, fingers, lips and tongue on a deeper level (using more pressure) to stimulate what is behind the vulva. (Stimulation from vaginal penetration doesn’t usually hit this area without concerted effort, especially if your partner has any extra flesh on her.)

Using Toys on the Clitoris

If your lover doesn’t have any toys yet, I highly encourage you to invest in some; quality costs, so be prepared.

If she already uses a vibe, ask to be invited between her legs so you can watch closely to see where exactly she puts it for her pleasure spot. I like mine on the right side, on the right leg… that is my Go-To spot for an awesome orgasm. You’ll witness her moving it around, looking for the exact location on which to settle. Imprint in your mind the motions she makes with her special toy. Once you feel comfortable watching, you might ask (beg!) to try using the toy on her.

Put That Toy on the Clitoris

When you are finally permitted to hold the toy for her, using it on her, it is crucial to have an open dialogue… even a running commentary… encouraging her to say, “To the left. Too far… back a little. Better! Now move down a bit… yes, that’s a great place. Don’t move!”

Instructional sex for many can be embarrassing because we are taught if we really love our partner, we will instinctively know how to please them. NOT TRUE! Each person’s body is different. Take it from me, I have eaten dozens (and dozens) of cunts and no woman likes it the same as any other. Even the same woman, over time, can shift her pleasure areas. Your partner needs to guide you to her specific needs and desires.

Toys for the Clitoris (and more!)

Lube those toys… with appropriate lubricants for the specific material of the toy. Be liberal. One can never have enough lubrication with sex toys. Toss down a towel to catch the drips and it’s all good.

The Rabbit is one of women’s faves and if she allows you to hold it for her, do not hesitate to use those rabbit ears, moving them around slightly… slowly… to stimulate the clit’s legs. She might totally just want you to keep the ears up against the clit proper and that is perfectly fine, of course.

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I actually prefer the Lelo… an incredibly expensive vibrator, but worth more than its weight in gold. Everyone should have one (or more… they make a wide variety of styles).

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You can see that the clitoral stimulator would be easier to move around without being pokie, even massaging back and forth in a way you cannot do with a Rabbit.

Exploring On Your Own

This really is a basic beginning of learning and pleasing the clitoris. There is so much information out there… make sure you read pieces written by women themselves. Keep learning. Keep playing.

Most of all, revel in your lover’s pleasure!